One of the blogs that I follow had a great post the other day. It really opened my eyes and helped me evaluate how I look at my children when they are disobedient, selfish and unloving.
I am no better (and certainly not a good example) when I become angry after they do something wrong. God tells us several times throughout the Bible to be slow to anger. The verse that sticks out to me is Proverbs 14:29: Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly. Ouch!
If I am not being patient, I am not understanding the situation or more importantly, the motivation for their disobedience. How can I address the actual problem — the condition of their heart — if I am too blinded by my own impatience (selfishness) and foolishness?
My children are not the problem. We are all born sinful and by the grace of God we are saved from our sins, but that does not give us license to sin. We have to learn how to handle our sin. This is impossible to do on our own, but with Christ all things are possible. Through the indwelling of the Holy Spirit we are able to overcome our sinful nature. Ahhhhh!
In everything we do we should glorify Him and enjoy Him forever, not out of obligation but out of love.